The end of a thing is better than it’s beginning… Ecclesiastes 7:8
We all enter into a marriage with baggage from the past; hurts, hang-ups and habits.
I had a lot! — He had a lot!
Most marriage beginnings begin out fresh, new and exciting. I have to say that our day was nothing of the like. We knew one another for awhile and lived with one another prior to our big day. Scott and I said, “I do” on June 3rd, 1989 at the Vets club in Bangor, Pennsylvania in front of about 75 people, mostly friends and family taking bets about how long we would last. In fact, his best man tried to get me to back out and go to NYC for the weekend, I declined.
If God is in something He will bring it to pass no matter how hard we try to wiggle out of it.
God joined us together that day for a purpose.
We were not Christians at the time of our wedding day. We lived a totally different life as we do today. I had a son, Brandon, out of wedlock and he was two at the time of our big day. A precious little boy who was getting a new daddy. Our little, sweet Tiffany was 2 months old sitting in a swing as her Mommy and Daddy said, “I do”. Really, it was only because of her that we said, “I do” that day. It was the right thing for Scott to do
Did we love one another? Well according to 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, No!
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud, It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
But who loves like that?
It is impossible without God and walking in His Spirit. But this is what “true” love loves like and it never fails. NEVER!
The quests left – we cleaned up… and started our first five years of marriage.
If there were ever two opposites with strong willed personalities on this Earth, it was Scott and I. We didn’t agree on much and our hobbies and likes we so different. The only thing we did well (most of the time) was party. We could party well together, and we did it often. We both were functioning alcoholics. Alcohol played a big part in our lives from 1988-1994.
We moved from Pennsylvania to Chiefland Florida a few months after we were married. I grew up in PA so this was a challenge for me being uprooted from my family and familiar surroundings.
But we had to go — God wanted us to go. Yes, God works things in our lives, behind the scenes, even before we accept His love.
I’m sure he could have worked His plan anywhere but this is where He wanted us planted in our first five years of marriage.
It wasn’t long before the baggage from the past was opened, and spilled onto the floor waiting to be picked up…it never was in those first five years.